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Why is There so Much Bad Divorce Advice out There?

Larry Sarezky, Esq.

why-is-thereThe good news is there is a wealth of advice about divorce available.

The bad news is there is a wealth of advice about divorce available.

Much of the advice you receive as you move through your divorce will come from friends and family, members of divorce support groups, and thousands of blogs, articles, and official-looking though quite often inaccurate websites.  Advice from these sources is of limited value because it is offered:

  • • With no knowledge, and/or little understanding, of the facts of your case

Saving Attorneys’ Fees in Divorce: Pay Less with Good Timing

ajacksonIf you can afford a divorce lawyer, you should hire one. There’s too much at stake and too many complexities in divorce to risk “winging it” without expert advice. However, you can save some money by delaying hiring a lawyer while you complete a number of tasks:

  • • File for divorce yourself using forms available on your state’s court system website
  • • Use a certified divorce planner or certified divorce financial analyst who charge substantially less than lawyers, to
    • • Help you organize your financial paperwork
    • • Help you prepare your financial disclosure statement

How to Interview a Divorce Lawyer – Part II

In Part I of this article, I discussed some questions to ask a lawyer at an initial consultation. Those questions related to the law and how it applies to the facts of your case.

This second part of the article deals with the other questions to be asked. Those questions relate to the lawyer’s credentials and the kind of attorney/client relationship you can expect to have with the lawyer.

Specifically, you want to find out the following:

  1. The lawyer’s experience in the area of family law
  2. Whether and how support staff and other lawyers may be involved in your case

How to Interview a Divorce Lawyer – Part I

Finding an experienced family attorney with whom you “click” dramatically improves your prospects for achieving your divorce goals.

With the possible exception of your current spouse, let’s assume you are a good judge of people. Let’s further assume that you’ve read a blog or 2 on how to choose a divorce lawyer. Finally, let’s assume you’ve listened to your friends bitch endlessly about their lawyers.

All of that should enable you to choose a lawyer for yourself, right?

Not quite.

You need to ask two kinds of questions at an initial interview with a divorce lawyer:

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“Divorce, Simply Stated,” Award-Winning Lawyer/Filmmaker’s New Book, Provides Advice to Reduce Burdens of Divorce

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Veteran divorce lawyer and mediator Larry Sarezky has announced the release of his new book, “Divorce, Simply Stated.” It’s a unique “how-to” book of divorce basics supplemented with rarely discussed techniques for achieving more, worrying less and saving money in divorce and other family court cases.

Use Empathy to Help Settle Your Divorce Case

Larry Sarezky, Esq.

“What the world needs now is love sweet love,
It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.”
– Burt Bacharach / Hal David

Not to nitpick, but love isn’t the only thing the world has too little of. Empathy, a key component of emotional intelligence, is also in short supply. And empathy is particularly important during divorce where run-away emotions can delay what you and your children need most: a speedy and fair resolution of all issues.

Divorce Parenting No-No’s

momsonParenting during divorce poses unique and difficult challenges for even the most well intentioned mothers and fathers. Many parents find themselves preoccupied if not overwhelmed by the divorce and all the emotions and uncertainties that accompany it. As a result, these parents become less able to attend to the needs of their children who need them more than ever during this turbulent time.

As a conscientious divorcing parent, you can serve the interests of your children by avoiding the following mistakes commonly made during divorce. But even if you do have a bad moment (it’s okay, nearly everyone does), use the experience to strengthen your resolve to not let it happen again.

The Parenting Goal Statement: 12 Steps Toward Productive Co-Parenting During and After Divorce

Divorcing parents promote their children’s well-being by retooling their co-parenting relationship early in the divorce process. Adding new ground rules to old shared values redirects parents’ focus from their own conflict to the children’s needs. It also creates momentum for a long-term parenting plan and a co-parenting relationship that produces healthier children.

Here are a dozen Parenting Goal Statement staples:

➢ We will shield our children from our conflict.

➢ We will not use our children as messengers or confidants.

➢ We will not put our children in the position of “choosing sides.”

Custody Battles: A Perfect Storm of Harmful Outcomes for Children

fistsWe know that custody battles are bad for children. The reason seems obvious enough: Prolonged high levels of parental conflict are toxic to children.

But there may be more to it than that. I believe that custody battles are so damaging because they deprive children of the very things they need most during divorce.

A “Top 4 List” of children’s needs during divorce would read something like this:

    • An end to their parents’ fighting
    • An end to uncertainty about where and with whom they will be living
    • A return to some degree of normalcy in their lives