Resources For ParentsTen Questions to Ask Before Fighting Over the Kids
My worst nightmare as a divorce lawyer is that thousands of children are growing up wondering why the “grown-ups” didn’t protect them from their parents’ high conflict divorces. That’s why I produced Talk to Strangers. But long before that, I put together ten questions to ask any of my clients who were considering a custody battle. Read More
How to Interview a Divorce Lawyer
Putting aside your unfortunate choice of a mate, let’s assume you are a good judge of people. Let’s further assume that you’ve researched how to choose a lawyer, reading blogs like Bobbing for Shysters: Coming up with One That Isn’t Rotten. Plus, you’ve listened to your friends bitch about their lawyers. All of that should qualify you to pick an attorney for yourself, right?Read More
Why YOU, not a judge, should resolve child-related disputes
Most parents continue to co-parent their children after divorce. Absent circumstances where children are at risk, parents have the responsibility to put the their children first by working out a parenting plan that is in the children’s interests.
If you are unable to resolve children’s issues with your co-parent, a judge will. There are a number of reasons to avoid that:
➢ The custody evaluation process can humiliate, frighten and compromise your children, and cause them enduring emotional harm.
➢ Custody cases are tremendously expensive. Parents must not only pay their own lawyers, but they may also have to pay attorneys to represent their children and/or guardians ad litem who are appointed in custody cases for children who are too young to express their feelings and preferences.
➢ Trial outcomes are extremely difficult to predict.
➢ A judge’s orders after trial rarely contain the crucial details that parents need in their agreements.
Spare your children the ordeal of the court custody evaluation process. Seek the help of a mediator (including those available through the court system at little or no cost) to help you make sound decisions for your children.